Man Refuses to Get Paternity Test After Ex Tells Him She Had His Baby, He Insists on Them Moving in With His Girlfriend

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 2, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. It's never fun to feel shocked by the throes of life's boundless experiences. One day, you could have one life, one world that you know, and the next, everything could be flipped upside down and right-side up, sending you down a surreal and disillusioned path. It's hard to navigate these tough feelings, and sudden life changes. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. In this thread, a woman has been with her boyfriend for three years. The subject of fertility has been heartbreaking for her, as they want to conceive, but she's biologically incapable. In her wildest nightmares, her boyfriend's ex comes out of the woodworks and claims she has a 3 year old son that's his. Elated, he wants to be the father he always dreamed of being. But what about his girlfriend? Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    r/TrueOffMyChest ⚫ 15 Brilliant Plan3883 My boyfriend just found out his ex girlfriend of nine years had his baby and now he wants to keep it because I can't have kids, but I can't stand the thought of it
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    My boyfriend (32m) and I (27f) started dating three years ago. We met at a bar one night and the rest is history. When I was 16 | was diagnosed with endometriosis which can lead to infertility, but last year when my boyfriend and I started trying, my doctor finally confirmed my
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    chances of getting pregnant are very low. It was really hard to come to terms with because despite me knowing it was a possibility, hearing it confirmed was a tough blow. My boyfriend and I both want kids, and soon we were supposed to start an alternative route, however it
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    seems his dreams are finally coming true, and I hate it.
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    My boyfriend had many girlfriends before me, and a lot of them still run in the same social circles. One girl who i'll call Maya (33f) and him dated until about five months before I met him. They dated for nine years, but they broke it off after she said she didn't want kids. I find that pretty ironic now.
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    A month ago, my boyfriend recieved a very long email from Maya. In it she stated that her son (3m) was his. She found out she was pregnant a couple months after they broke it off. She had already moved out of the city by then and because they had agreed to go completely no
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    contact after the breakup, she never had the courage to tell him. She was planning on giving the baby up for adoption since she had never wanted kids, but once she held him, she knew she couldn't give him away.
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    When my boyfriend told me, I was quite literally speechless. I could tell he was really excited, he kept babbling about putting in a nursery and taking a part of our paychecks to organise a trust for him, then he started talking about strollers and clothes and I started to feel suffocated, everything was moving so fast.
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    I feel so ashamed about this but as much as we want to concieve and have children, ever since I found out i've felt so sick. My boyfriend hasn't even gotten a paternity test done despite my insistence. He's met the boy about three times now and keeps trying to show me photos but I
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    feel so disconnected from the whole situation, that whenever he talks to me about him or tries to show me photos, I just shut down.
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    The worst part is that he wants Maya and her son to move into our spare bedroom for the time being while he "sorts everything out financially". We've hardly seen eachother over the past month between him rushing to his accountant and to his parents house, to Maya's house, to his
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    lawyers to sort out making a new will. He hasn't even asked for a paternity test. And now his ex girlfriend and their child are moving into the room down the hall from me.
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    I've been in this weird out of body state ever since he told me, like i'm on autopilot just sort of navigating life like a robot. Neither Maya nor my boyfriend have actually talked to me or asked me how this is for me, but I fear it may be selfish for me to want that. I do want to see my
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    boyfriend happy, and I can see just how happy he is with his son (feels weird for me to say that), but I don't even feel like i'm his anymore, just sort of exisiting as a seperate person in the house.
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    I know its selfish and conceited of me to be weird about this, but I just don't even know how to begin to have a proper conversation with my boyfriend about this, and Maya has refused to talk to me. I don't know, I'm honestly just tired.
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    Defiant_Pomelo333 • 15h ago Of course he wants to be part of his son. But its super wierd that he wants them to move in.
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    Immediate_Mud_... • 14h ago Oh boy!! Your bf can put aside some of his pay check for his child. Your income doesn't get touched.
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    He must get a paternity test He's an idiot if he doesn't. No way in would I let them move into the spare bedroom.
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    In all honesty I'm guessing your next update will be that your bf is cheating on you with Maya. Just leave him now. Make sure your finances are separated.
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    c... 15h ago • Edited 15h ago Yea she's refusing to talk to you because she knows you'll clock her intentions. The minute she moves in you'll be pushed out for the happy little family. I give it 2 months before they're
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    sleeping together. They only broke up because she didn't want kids. They now have a kid. Sorry but you feel like an afterthought because you are. For her you're the only thing standing in the way her family. For him you're just extra because now he has everything he wanted of
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    with the girl he didn't even I want to leave. For them things are fixed now. The kid fixed the reason for their split so now they can be together.
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    Start packing. Just leave him a note and be gone when he finally decides to come home. If you own the place together have a lawyer reach out to settle your half of the property.
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    Otherwise-Affect... • 15h ago Do yourself a favor and break up with him. This is just the start of a terrible situation for YOU
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    Dingo-thatate-ur... • 15h ago You might as well end it. Your feelings have no matter in this.
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    • Lavalampion 15h ago. Run for the hills. This will do you no good. It's not 3 years lost. It's 3 years lived. Now go live somewhere else. People also don't say they lost x years of living in a place after a move. Better stuff on the horizon or
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    stuff on the horizon or somewhere there instead.
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